The Garbage Can Message: Communication Without Words

This morning, I pulled into the driveway after my early workout.  I was prepared to start the day and as I turned toward the garage, I was met with an unexpected—and oddly effective—obstacle: our big green garbage can, sitting squarely in front of the garage door.

I had to laugh.

There was no note, no text, no conversation. Just that can, blocking my usual path. And I instantly understood the message: Don’t pull into the garage.

When I walked into the house, I looked at my husband and said with a smile, “Message received. That was a very clear way to communicate your needs.” We both cracked up, because sometimes communication doesn’t need words at all to be effective.

But it got me thinking—about how powerful clear communication can be, and how often we assume others “just know” what we need, feel, or expect. Whether it’s with our partners, kids, coworkers, or even within ourselves, clarity is a gift we often overlook.

But it got me thinking—about how powerful clear communication can be, and how often we assume others “just know” what we need, feel, or expect. Whether it’s with our partners, kids, coworkers, or even within ourselves, clarity is a gift we often overlook.

Communication Is Everywhere
Sometimes it comes as a conversation.
Sometimes it’s a look.
And occasionally, it’s a garbage can parked directly in your path.

We’re always sending and receiving messages. But are we doing it intentionally? Are we being clear—with ourselves and with others—about what we need, what we feel, and what we want?

Clear Messaging with Others
We often expect others to read our minds, and when they don’t, we feel misunderstood or frustrated. But true connection comes when we make the invisible visible—by clearly stating our feelings, setting boundaries, or asking for support. Like my husband did, just without saying a word.

Clear Messaging with Others
We often expect others to read our minds, and when they don’t, we feel misunderstood or frustrated. But true connection comes when we make the invisible visible—by clearly stating our feelings, setting boundaries, or asking for support. Like my husband did, just without saying a word.

Clear Messaging with Ourselves
It’s just as important to be clear with ourselves. What am I really feeling? What do I need right now? Am I living in alignment with my values—or just going through the motions?

When we pause to tune in and name what’s going on inside, we create clarity that ripples outward. We show up more grounded, more intentional, and more available to those around us.

And if a garbage can shows up in your path? Take it as a sign. There's a message there—if you’re willing to listen.

Reflection:  What’s your version of the garbage can?  What message are you trying to send—or what message is life trying to send you—that could use a little more of your attention?

Action: Choose one area of your life—personal, professional, or internal—where communication feels murky or unspoken. Take one small step toward clarity today. It could be a direct conversation, journaling out your thoughts, or simply naming what you’re feeling. Clarity starts with awareness.

Tool:  Clarity Check-in Tool